Sex and Shame: The Principles of Erotic Humiliation
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The world of erotic humiliation encompasses many very different fetishes and fantasies. While the wrong whisper might leave you cold and limp, the right degrading words or actions might make you throb in anticipation for more. As in bdsm, terminology can be complicated and inaccessible to the newbie humiliation junkie. Listed here are general definitions and examples of sexual ideas or practices relevant to the exploration of erotic humiliation.

Verbal Humiliation

He sprouted wood once when his sexy female boss yelled at him. He had to slip off to rub one out when the lady loan manager at the bank laughed at his application. He loves it when girls insult him, when the mock him with their words. Yes, he is worthless. Yes, he's a bitch. Yes, when you get out your strap on cock, he'd love to be your filthy little whore. When you berate him, he hardens. When you laugh, he spooges in his pants. Mockery is your friend when dealing with a lover of verbal humiliation.

Public Humiliation

He's flashed, he's streaked and he loves the laughter he hears when women witness his antics. He knows he's risking everything to expose himself to their view and their scorn, but he just can't help himself. He walks naked to the mailbox when his neighbors are away. He drives naked or cross dressed at midnight. He masturbates in front of open windows or sneaks into the hall of his building. The adrenaline surge he gets when he exposes himself outweighs the risk to his life and freedom. He needs an audience (or the threat of one) to mock and scorn him for complete sexual arousal.

Cuckold Humiliation

He wants to watch her with him. He knows she's out tonight with her new lover, she promised she'd bring him home after. He knows it isn't because he begged her to, she wants to rub it in. She wants him to know beyond any doubt her new lover can please her in ways he never could. He's inadequate, useless and pathetic. He wants her to keep reminding him by exposing him as a cuckold to the world at large. He knows he won't breed. Her children will belong to a real man. He'll take care of them, of course, that's what a tame cuckold does.

Small Cock Humiliation

He's the smallest guy in the locker room. He waits until everyone else has showered so he can sneak in unseen. All around him he sees the physical evidence of his inferiority dangling low between the thighs of other men. While he feels the emasculation of his situation keenly, he also loves tickling his dinky dick... but he secretly admits his dicklet brings no one pleasure but himself. Each insult reinforces his decision to compulsively masturbate and refrain from sex with women altogether.

Sissy Humiliation

He's always adored feminine frills, but knows his obsession with ribbons and lace makes him look like a silly sissy. He deliberately dresses in ridiculously feminine attire and enjoys the taunts of beautiful women. These sissies are diametrically opposite of the cross dresser or t-girls that can pass. With exaggerated gestures and stereotypical pageant girl behavior and clothing, these sissies beg with every fiber of their being to be teased and mocked..

Coerced Bi Humiliation

He's always been straight... except that one time he told no one about. But he still thinks of it, remembers what it was like on his knees sucking another man's cock. While he might be in a committed relationship with a woman, he has secret fantasies. In those fantasies he's coerced to perform homosexual acts and doesn't have to take responsibility for his actions. He's been coerced, someone made him do it so it doesn't make him gay... does it?

Objectification & Dehumanization

He ceases to be a person and becomes a thing, an animal, an object. He's deprived of speech, of complaint and his opinion ceases to matter. He's nothing, no one, something to use, a hole to fill. He's the oinking pig who answers the door in his snout. He's the collared slave, bound and gagged for the pleasure of her party guests. He's her doggy playing fetch with her girlfriends complete with collar and ears... and a cute little butt plug tail that wiggles when his ass does. He's her footstool. He catches every single ash with his mouth, her human ashtray. He kneels silently, unmoving, awaiting her command.

Why explore erotic humiliation?

Many males imprint on past experiences in ways they don't fully understand. When exploring why something that seems scary and ego deflating, males often remember situations and events that helped to shape their sexual personalities and thus put their shameful desires in the proper prospective. Yes, it's fun and freeing to let yourself feel and experience things that aren't bland and vanilla. But even spice and kink can be used to shape your life positively. Repression leads to stress and both mental and physical illness. Of course not every fantasy is suitable for realization, but talking about the dark ones exorcises the demons of guilt and shame.